What parents can do when a child is rejected from a top-choice college
- Try not to use the word ‘rejection,’ which sounds personal, and use ‘not the right fit’ instead.
- Acknowledge their disappointment. Don’t say: “It’s Ok. Things will get better,” which can minimize their feelings. Let them have the moment.
- Listen to their rants and keep quiet. In that emotional time, everything you say is going to be rejected anyway.
- When they are ready to talk about next steps, shift expectation. Focus on where they did get in and revisit the reasons they decided to apply there in the first place, which may rekindle their enthusiasm and put them in control again.
- Help them compare financial aid packages and visit campuses again.
- Let them decide.
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